read the news..
a girl,16 yrs old,top student,from jb was kidnapped,possibly sexually assaulted,killed and her body burnt..by 4 teenagers that she knew..
wat has happened to the ppl nowadays..
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
well well have received quite a number of interesting emails and here is yet another one. haha although i dun rly believe in horoscopes but this is kind of interesting haha.
shall start off wif mine. haha well i like the 2nd last line LOL. scroll down for more.
SAGITTARIUS - The Promiscuous One
Spontaneous. High appeal. Rare to find. Great when found. Loves being in long relationships. So much love to give. A loner most of the time. Loses patience easily and will not take crap. If in a bad mood stay FAR away. Gets offended easily and remembers the offense forever. Loves deeply but at times will not show it feels it is a sign of weakness. Has many fears but will not show it. VERY private person. Defends loved ones will all their abilities. Can be childish often. Not one to mess with. Very pretty. Very romantic. Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique appeal. Most caring person you will ever meet! Amazing in bed..!!! Not the kind of person you want to mess with- you might end up crying.
ARIES - The Aggressive
Outgoing. Lovable. Spontaneous. Not one to mess with. Funny. Excellent kisser EXTREMELY adorable. Loves relationships, and family is very important to an Aries. Aries are known for being generous and giving. Addictive. Loud. Always has the need to be 'Right'. Aries will argue to prove their point for hours and hours. Aries are some of the most wonderful people in the world. 16 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
TAURUS - The Tramp
Aggressive. Loves being in long relationships. Likes to give a good fight.
Fight for what they want. Can be annoying at times, but for the love of attention. Extremely outgoing. Loves to help people in times of need. Good kisser. Good personality. Stubborn. A caring person. They can be self centered and if they want something they will do anything to get it. They love to sleep and can be lazy. One of a kind. Not one to mess with. Are the most attractive people on earth! 15 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
GEMINI - The Twin
Nice. Love is one of a kind. Great listeners Very Good at confusing people... Lover not a fighter, but will still knock you out. Gemini's will not take any crap from anyone. Gemini's like to tell people what they should do and get offended easily. They are great at losing things and are forgetful. Gemini's can be very sarcastic and childish at times, and are very nosey.
Trustworthy. Always happy. VERY Loud. Talkative. Outgoing VERY FORGIVING. Loves to make out. Has a beautiful smile. Generous. Strong. THE MOST IRRESISTIBLE. 9 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
CANCER - The Beauty
MOST AMAZING KISSER. Very high appeal. A Cancer's Love is one of a kind. Very romantic. Most caring person you will ever meet in your life. Entirely creative Person, most's are artists and insane respectfully speaking. They perfected sex and do it often. Extremely random. An Ultimate Freak. Extremely funny and is usually the life of the party. Most cancers will take you under their wing and into their hearts where you will remain forever. Cancers make love with a passion beyond compare
Spontaneous. Not a Fighter, But will kick your ass good if it comes down to it. Someone you should hold on to! 12 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
LEO - The Lion
Great talker. Attractive and passionate. Laid back. Usually happy, but when unhappy tend to be grouchy and childish. A Leo's problem becomes everyone's problem. Most Leos are very predictable and tend to be monotonous. Knows how to have fun. Is really good at almost anything. Great kisser. Very predictable. Outgoing. Down to earth. Addictive. Attractive. Loud. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Not one to mess with. Rare to find. Good when found. 7 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
VIRGO - The One that Waits
Dominant in relationships. Someone loves them right now. Always wants the last word. Caring. Smart. Loud. Loyal. Easy to talk to. Everything you ever wanted. Easy to please. A pushover. Loves to gamble and take chances. Needs to have the last say in everything. They think they know everything and usually do. Respectful to others but you will quickly lose their respect if you do something untrustworthy towards them and never regain respect. The do not forgive and never forget the one and only. 7 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
LIBRA - The Lame One
Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique appeal. Most caring person you will ever meet! However, not the kind of person you want to mess with... you might end up crying... Libras can cause as much havoc as they can prevent. faithful friends to the end. Can hold a grudge for years. Libras are someone you want on your side. Usually great at sports and are extreme sports fanatics. Kinda dumb at times. 9 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
SCORPIO - The Addict
EXTREMELY adorable. Loves to joke. Very Good sense of humor. Will try almost anything once. Loves to be pampered. Energetic. Predictable. GREAT kisser. Always get what they want. Attractive. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Loves to party but at times to the extreme. Loves the smell and feel of money and is good at making it but just as good at spending it! Very protective over loved ones. HARD workers. Can be a good friend but if disrespected by a friend, the friendship will end. Romantic. Caring.
4 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
CAPRICORN - The Passionate Lover
Love to bust. Nice. Sassy. Intelligent. Sexy. Grouchy at times and annoying to some. Lazy and love to take it easy. But when they find a job or something they like to do they put their all into it. Proud, understanding and sweet.
Irresistible. Loves being in long relationships. Great talker. Always
gets what he or she wants. Cool. Loves to win against other signs especially Gemini's in sports. Likes to cook but would rather go out to eat at good restaurants.
Extremely fun. Loves to joke. Smart. 24 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
AQUARIUS - Does It In The Water
Trustworthy. Attractive. Great kisser. One of a kind, loves being in
long-term relationships. Can be clumsy at times but tries hard. Will take on any project. Proud of themselves in whatever they do. Messy, and unorganized. Procrastinators. Great lovers, when their not sleeping. Extreme thinkers. Loves their pets usually more then their family. Can be VERY irritating to others when they try to explain or tell a story. Unpredictable. Will exceed your expectations. Not a Fighter, But will Knock your lights out. 2 years of bad luck if you do not forward
PISCES - The Partner for Life
Caring and kind. Smart. Center of attention. Messy at times and irresponsible! Smart but lazy. High appeal. Has the last word. Good to find, hard to keep. Passionate, wonderful lovers. Fun to be around. Too trusting at times and gets hurt easily. Lover of animals. VERY caring, make wonderful nurses or doctors. They always try to do the right thing sometimes get the short end of the stick. They sometimes get used by others and hurt because of their trusting. Extremely weird but in a good way. Good Sense of Humor!!! Thoughtful. Always gets what he or she wants. Loves to joke. Very popular. Silly, fun and sweet. Good friend to other but need to be choosy on who they allow their friends to be.
shall start off wif mine. haha well i like the 2nd last line LOL. scroll down for more.
SAGITTARIUS - The Promiscuous One
Spontaneous. High appeal. Rare to find. Great when found. Loves being in long relationships. So much love to give. A loner most of the time. Loses patience easily and will not take crap. If in a bad mood stay FAR away. Gets offended easily and remembers the offense forever. Loves deeply but at times will not show it feels it is a sign of weakness. Has many fears but will not show it. VERY private person. Defends loved ones will all their abilities. Can be childish often. Not one to mess with. Very pretty. Very romantic. Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique appeal. Most caring person you will ever meet! Amazing in bed..!!! Not the kind of person you want to mess with- you might end up crying.
ARIES - The Aggressive
Outgoing. Lovable. Spontaneous. Not one to mess with. Funny. Excellent kisser EXTREMELY adorable. Loves relationships, and family is very important to an Aries. Aries are known for being generous and giving. Addictive. Loud. Always has the need to be 'Right'. Aries will argue to prove their point for hours and hours. Aries are some of the most wonderful people in the world. 16 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
TAURUS - The Tramp
Aggressive. Loves being in long relationships. Likes to give a good fight.
Fight for what they want. Can be annoying at times, but for the love of attention. Extremely outgoing. Loves to help people in times of need. Good kisser. Good personality. Stubborn. A caring person. They can be self centered and if they want something they will do anything to get it. They love to sleep and can be lazy. One of a kind. Not one to mess with. Are the most attractive people on earth! 15 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
GEMINI - The Twin
Nice. Love is one of a kind. Great listeners Very Good at confusing people... Lover not a fighter, but will still knock you out. Gemini's will not take any crap from anyone. Gemini's like to tell people what they should do and get offended easily. They are great at losing things and are forgetful. Gemini's can be very sarcastic and childish at times, and are very nosey.
Trustworthy. Always happy. VERY Loud. Talkative. Outgoing VERY FORGIVING. Loves to make out. Has a beautiful smile. Generous. Strong. THE MOST IRRESISTIBLE. 9 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
CANCER - The Beauty
MOST AMAZING KISSER. Very high appeal. A Cancer's Love is one of a kind. Very romantic. Most caring person you will ever meet in your life. Entirely creative Person, most's are artists and insane respectfully speaking. They perfected sex and do it often. Extremely random. An Ultimate Freak. Extremely funny and is usually the life of the party. Most cancers will take you under their wing and into their hearts where you will remain forever. Cancers make love with a passion beyond compare
Spontaneous. Not a Fighter, But will kick your ass good if it comes down to it. Someone you should hold on to! 12 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
LEO - The Lion
Great talker. Attractive and passionate. Laid back. Usually happy, but when unhappy tend to be grouchy and childish. A Leo's problem becomes everyone's problem. Most Leos are very predictable and tend to be monotonous. Knows how to have fun. Is really good at almost anything. Great kisser. Very predictable. Outgoing. Down to earth. Addictive. Attractive. Loud. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Not one to mess with. Rare to find. Good when found. 7 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
VIRGO - The One that Waits
Dominant in relationships. Someone loves them right now. Always wants the last word. Caring. Smart. Loud. Loyal. Easy to talk to. Everything you ever wanted. Easy to please. A pushover. Loves to gamble and take chances. Needs to have the last say in everything. They think they know everything and usually do. Respectful to others but you will quickly lose their respect if you do something untrustworthy towards them and never regain respect. The do not forgive and never forget the one and only. 7 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
LIBRA - The Lame One
Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique appeal. Most caring person you will ever meet! However, not the kind of person you want to mess with... you might end up crying... Libras can cause as much havoc as they can prevent. faithful friends to the end. Can hold a grudge for years. Libras are someone you want on your side. Usually great at sports and are extreme sports fanatics. Kinda dumb at times. 9 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
SCORPIO - The Addict
EXTREMELY adorable. Loves to joke. Very Good sense of humor. Will try almost anything once. Loves to be pampered. Energetic. Predictable. GREAT kisser. Always get what they want. Attractive. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Loves to party but at times to the extreme. Loves the smell and feel of money and is good at making it but just as good at spending it! Very protective over loved ones. HARD workers. Can be a good friend but if disrespected by a friend, the friendship will end. Romantic. Caring.
4 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
CAPRICORN - The Passionate Lover
Love to bust. Nice. Sassy. Intelligent. Sexy. Grouchy at times and annoying to some. Lazy and love to take it easy. But when they find a job or something they like to do they put their all into it. Proud, understanding and sweet.
Irresistible. Loves being in long relationships. Great talker. Always
gets what he or she wants. Cool. Loves to win against other signs especially Gemini's in sports. Likes to cook but would rather go out to eat at good restaurants.
Extremely fun. Loves to joke. Smart. 24 years of bad luck if you do not forward.
AQUARIUS - Does It In The Water
Trustworthy. Attractive. Great kisser. One of a kind, loves being in
long-term relationships. Can be clumsy at times but tries hard. Will take on any project. Proud of themselves in whatever they do. Messy, and unorganized. Procrastinators. Great lovers, when their not sleeping. Extreme thinkers. Loves their pets usually more then their family. Can be VERY irritating to others when they try to explain or tell a story. Unpredictable. Will exceed your expectations. Not a Fighter, But will Knock your lights out. 2 years of bad luck if you do not forward
PISCES - The Partner for Life
Caring and kind. Smart. Center of attention. Messy at times and irresponsible! Smart but lazy. High appeal. Has the last word. Good to find, hard to keep. Passionate, wonderful lovers. Fun to be around. Too trusting at times and gets hurt easily. Lover of animals. VERY caring, make wonderful nurses or doctors. They always try to do the right thing sometimes get the short end of the stick. They sometimes get used by others and hurt because of their trusting. Extremely weird but in a good way. Good Sense of Humor!!! Thoughtful. Always gets what he or she wants. Loves to joke. Very popular. Silly, fun and sweet. Good friend to other but need to be choosy on who they allow their friends to be.
This is hilarious hahahaha.
Murid : Selamat pagi, cikgu.
Cikgu : (Menengking) Mengapa selamat pagi sahaja? Petang dan malam awak
doakan saya tak selamat?
Murid : Selamat pagi, petang dan malam cikgu!
Cikgu : Panjang sangat! Tak pernah dibuat oleh orang! Kata selamat
sejahtera! Senang dan penuh bermakna.Lagipun ucapan ini meliputi semua masa
dan keadaan.
Murid : Selamat sejahtera cikgu!
Cikgu : Sama-sama, duduk! Dengar sini baik- baik. Hari ini cikgu nak uji
kamu semua tentang perkataan berlawan. Bila cikgu sebutkan perkataannya,
kamu semua mesti menjawab dengan cepat, lawan bagi perkataan-perkataan itu,
faham?
Murid : Faham, cikgu!
Cikgu : Saya tak mahu ada apa-apa gangguan dan selepas ini saya
Akan uji kamu semua simpulan bahasa!!!
Murid : (senyap)
Cikgu : Pandai!
Murid : Bodoh!
Cikgu : Tinggi!
Murid : Rendah!
Cikgu : Jauh!
Murid : Dekat!
Cikgu : Keadilan!
Murid : UMNO!
Cikgu : Salah!
Murid : Betul!
Cikgu : Bodoh!
Murid : Pandai!
Cikgu: Bukan!
Murid : Ya!
Cikgu : Oh Tuhan!
Murid : Oh Hamba!
Cikgu : Dengar ini!
Murid : Dengar itu!
Cikgu : Diam!
Murid : Bising!
Cikgu : Itu bukan pertanyaan, bodoh!
Murid : Ini ialah jawapan, pandai!
Cikgu : Mati aku!
Murid : Hidup kami!
Cikgu : Rotan baru tau!
Murid : Ratan lama tak tau!
Cikgu : Malas aku ajar kamu!
Murid : Rajin kami belajar saya!
Cikgu : Kamu bodoh!
Murid : Kami pandai!
Cikgu : Cukup!! Cukup! !
Murid : Tak cukup!!Tak cukup! !
Cikgu : Sudah! Sudah!
Murid : Belum! Belum!
Cikgu : Kurang ajar!
Murid : Cukup ajar!
Cikgu : Sudah, bodoh!
Murid : Belum, pandai!
Cikgu : Berdiri!
Murid : Duduk!
Cikgu : Saya kata UMNO salah!
Murid : Kami dengar KeADILan betul!
Cikgu : Bangang kamu ni!
Murid : Cerdik kami tu!
Cikgu : Rosak!
Murid : Baik!
Cikgu : Kamu semua ditahan tengah hari ini!
Murid : Dilepaskan tengah malam itu!
Cikgu : Gila lah kamu semua ni!!!!!!!!!!!
Murid : Siuman lo saya tu???????????
Cikgu : Senyap lah !!
Murid : Bising lo??
Cikgu : Jangan bising, bodoh, bodoh, bodoh!!
Murid : Boleh senyap, pandai, pandai, pandai??
Cikgu : Sudah, sekarang saya akan uji simpulan bahasa!!
Murid : Belum, selepas kamu belum uji peribahasa??
Cikgu : Ringan tulang!!
Murid : Berat gnalut??
Cikgu : Salah!!!
Murid : Betul???
Cikgu yang garang itu segara lari dari kelas itu.Murid-murid berasa lega dan
gembira kerana berjaya menjawab pertanyaan cikgu mereka
Murid : Selamat pagi, cikgu.
Cikgu : (Menengking) Mengapa selamat pagi sahaja? Petang dan malam awak
doakan saya tak selamat?
Murid : Selamat pagi, petang dan malam cikgu!
Cikgu : Panjang sangat! Tak pernah dibuat oleh orang! Kata selamat
sejahtera! Senang dan penuh bermakna.Lagipun ucapan ini meliputi semua masa
dan keadaan.
Murid : Selamat sejahtera cikgu!
Cikgu : Sama-sama, duduk! Dengar sini baik- baik. Hari ini cikgu nak uji
kamu semua tentang perkataan berlawan. Bila cikgu sebutkan perkataannya,
kamu semua mesti menjawab dengan cepat, lawan bagi perkataan-perkataan itu,
faham?
Murid : Faham, cikgu!
Cikgu : Saya tak mahu ada apa-apa gangguan dan selepas ini saya
Akan uji kamu semua simpulan bahasa!!!
Murid : (senyap)
Cikgu : Pandai!
Murid : Bodoh!
Cikgu : Tinggi!
Murid : Rendah!
Cikgu : Jauh!
Murid : Dekat!
Cikgu : Keadilan!
Murid : UMNO!
Cikgu : Salah!
Murid : Betul!
Cikgu : Bodoh!
Murid : Pandai!
Cikgu: Bukan!
Murid : Ya!
Cikgu : Oh Tuhan!
Murid : Oh Hamba!
Cikgu : Dengar ini!
Murid : Dengar itu!
Cikgu : Diam!
Murid : Bising!
Cikgu : Itu bukan pertanyaan, bodoh!
Murid : Ini ialah jawapan, pandai!
Cikgu : Mati aku!
Murid : Hidup kami!
Cikgu : Rotan baru tau!
Murid : Ratan lama tak tau!
Cikgu : Malas aku ajar kamu!
Murid : Rajin kami belajar saya!
Cikgu : Kamu bodoh!
Murid : Kami pandai!
Cikgu : Cukup!! Cukup! !
Murid : Tak cukup!!Tak cukup! !
Cikgu : Sudah! Sudah!
Murid : Belum! Belum!
Cikgu : Kurang ajar!
Murid : Cukup ajar!
Cikgu : Sudah, bodoh!
Murid : Belum, pandai!
Cikgu : Berdiri!
Murid : Duduk!
Cikgu : Saya kata UMNO salah!
Murid : Kami dengar KeADILan betul!
Cikgu : Bangang kamu ni!
Murid : Cerdik kami tu!
Cikgu : Rosak!
Murid : Baik!
Cikgu : Kamu semua ditahan tengah hari ini!
Murid : Dilepaskan tengah malam itu!
Cikgu : Gila lah kamu semua ni!!!!!!!!!!!
Murid : Siuman lo saya tu???????????
Cikgu : Senyap lah !!
Murid : Bising lo??
Cikgu : Jangan bising, bodoh, bodoh, bodoh!!
Murid : Boleh senyap, pandai, pandai, pandai??
Cikgu : Sudah, sekarang saya akan uji simpulan bahasa!!
Murid : Belum, selepas kamu belum uji peribahasa??
Cikgu : Ringan tulang!!
Murid : Berat gnalut??
Cikgu : Salah!!!
Murid : Betul???
Cikgu yang garang itu segara lari dari kelas itu.Murid-murid berasa lega dan
gembira kerana berjaya menjawab pertanyaan cikgu mereka
被狗吠的人，不一定是賊；
留長鬍子，也不一定是藝術家。
但有了「 偏 」見，就會把「人 」看「 扁」了 ?
每星期五晚上，小吳都開車送太太到火車站搭車，去探生病的媽媽。
十分鐘後，小吳妹妹所乘的火車就到站。
他接她回家幫忙他們料理家務。
每逢星期日整個程序正好相反。
小吳妹妹的火車開出十分鐘後，他太太才到。
有一晚，他的妹妹剛走，小吳正等著接太太的車，一個站務員慢慢走過來。
他笑容詭異地說 :「先生，你真有辦法。難道你不怕有一天會被她們逮到嗎 ? 」
(((((((( 月暈效應))))))))
和別人相處時，我們都慣於戴上一副「 先入為主 」的眼睛，
將別人放進一個「 框框 」裡，
再用這個框框解釋此人的角色與行為他是好人、他是壞人，
他好像有外遇、她很愛佔小便宜 ........
我們甚至把想法投射到對方身上，
以致經常偏離事實真相。
也許你也聽過這則故事 ..
有兩個女人，坐在同一張桌子喝飲料。
其中一個，把雨傘靠在桌邊，
另一個在喝完飲料時，迷迷糊糊的，順手拿起雨傘就走。
雨傘的主人大聲叫說 :「喂 ! 妳拿了我的雨傘。」
前面那個女人一臉尷尬，紅著臉向對方道歉，
說是忘了自已沒帶傘，一時誤拿。
這件事，讓她想起需要買把雨傘，順便也買一把給孩子，於是她便去買了兩把。
回家的路上，她正巧又跟那位之前被她誤拿雨傘的女人坐在同一輛公車上。
那女人注視著那兩把雨傘，說 :「我看妳今天的成績還不錯嘛 ! 」
人們在判斷別人時常有一種傾向，
就是把人概分為「 好的 」或「不好的 」兩部分。
當一個人留給人的印象是「 好的 」時，
人們就會把他的言行舉止用「 好的 」角度去解釋，
反之， 如果一個人被歸於「 不好的 」的印象時，
那麼，一切「 不好的 」看法都會加在他的身上。
這種現象稱之為「 月暈效應 」。
意即當人們看到月亮的同時，
周邊的光環也會被注意到當一個人的「 印象確立 」之後，
人們就會自動「 印象概推 」（Halo Effect ）將第一印象的認知與對方的言行聯想在一起。
「成見」能有多荒謬？
有一名年輕猶太人和老猶太人坐在同一列火車上。
年輕猶太人問老猶太人說：「 先生，請問現在幾點了？ 」
老猶太人卻默不作聲。
「 對不起! 先生，請問現在幾點了？ 」
老猶太人還是不答
「 先生很抱歉打擾您了！但是我真的想要知道現在是幾點鐘。你為什麼不回答我呢？」
老猶太人答道：
「 孩子，下一站就是最後一站了。而我一點都不認識你這個陌生人。
如果我現在回答你，依照猶太人的傳統，我就必須邀請你到我家坐。
你長得很英俊，而我有一個很漂亮的女兒。
你們倆一定會愛上對方，然後你就會把我的女兒娶走。
你告訴我，我為什麼要一個連手錶都買不起的女婿呢？ 」
幾乎每一分鐘、每一件事，我們都依憑著過去所得的知識、經驗在作判斷。
比方，我們常聽說（或認為）：「 生意人都很狡猾 」、
「 女人都是爛駕駛」、
「 男人都很不衛生」、
「 猶太人都很吝嗇」、
「 美國人都很浪漫」 ....... 等等。
此後我們心中就會建立一套刻板的印象，
並用這個「 成見 」去解釋或評斷周遭的人事物。
一對男女若看到一個男人拿把花走在街上，
女的可能會想：「 哦 !他真體貼、好浪漫。 」
男的也許會認為，「 天啊 !我看這傢伙完了 」
有一則故事，大意是這樣的：
有一位先生初到美國不久，某個早上到公園散步，
看到一些白人坐在草坪上聊天、曬太陽，
他心想 : 「美國人生活真是悠閒，有錢又懂得享受生活。」
走了不久，又看到有幾個黑人也悠閒地坐在草坪的另一邊，
這位先生不禁想到，
「唉 !黑人失業的問題還真是嚴重，這些人大概都在領社會救濟金過生活。」
艾斯曾有這麼一段妙喻，
當你暗夜走在街上，看見某扇窗亮了一盞燈。
也許有人會說 :「這一定是母親為還沒有回家的子女在禱告」
也有人會說 :「老天，一定有人在偷情。」
哈茲立特有句話 :「 偏見是無知的孩子。 」
說得一點都不錯，
「 人」「 扁 」為偏 ，
人一旦有了偏見，
就會把「 人 」看「扁 」、看「 偏」了。
大多數的人並不了解你，
你也不完全了解這些人，
既然如此，
我們就不該輕易地去論斷他人，
當然也不必在意別人的論斷。
因為，
每個人都可能扣錯第一顆釦子 ，
不是嗎？
思想的弓拉動時間的小提琴,
葦瓦地的春天 ,
明媚了我心底的角落 .
留長鬍子，也不一定是藝術家。
但有了「 偏 」見，就會把「人 」看「 扁」了 ?
每星期五晚上，小吳都開車送太太到火車站搭車，去探生病的媽媽。
十分鐘後，小吳妹妹所乘的火車就到站。
他接她回家幫忙他們料理家務。
每逢星期日整個程序正好相反。
小吳妹妹的火車開出十分鐘後，他太太才到。
有一晚，他的妹妹剛走，小吳正等著接太太的車，一個站務員慢慢走過來。
他笑容詭異地說 :「先生，你真有辦法。難道你不怕有一天會被她們逮到嗎 ? 」
(((((((( 月暈效應))))))))
和別人相處時，我們都慣於戴上一副「 先入為主 」的眼睛，
將別人放進一個「 框框 」裡，
再用這個框框解釋此人的角色與行為他是好人、他是壞人，
他好像有外遇、她很愛佔小便宜 ........
我們甚至把想法投射到對方身上，
以致經常偏離事實真相。
也許你也聽過這則故事 ..
有兩個女人，坐在同一張桌子喝飲料。
其中一個，把雨傘靠在桌邊，
另一個在喝完飲料時，迷迷糊糊的，順手拿起雨傘就走。
雨傘的主人大聲叫說 :「喂 ! 妳拿了我的雨傘。」
前面那個女人一臉尷尬，紅著臉向對方道歉，
說是忘了自已沒帶傘，一時誤拿。
這件事，讓她想起需要買把雨傘，順便也買一把給孩子，於是她便去買了兩把。
回家的路上，她正巧又跟那位之前被她誤拿雨傘的女人坐在同一輛公車上。
那女人注視著那兩把雨傘，說 :「我看妳今天的成績還不錯嘛 ! 」
人們在判斷別人時常有一種傾向，
就是把人概分為「 好的 」或「不好的 」兩部分。
當一個人留給人的印象是「 好的 」時，
人們就會把他的言行舉止用「 好的 」角度去解釋，
反之， 如果一個人被歸於「 不好的 」的印象時，
那麼，一切「 不好的 」看法都會加在他的身上。
這種現象稱之為「 月暈效應 」。
意即當人們看到月亮的同時，
周邊的光環也會被注意到當一個人的「 印象確立 」之後，
人們就會自動「 印象概推 」（Halo Effect ）將第一印象的認知與對方的言行聯想在一起。
「成見」能有多荒謬？
有一名年輕猶太人和老猶太人坐在同一列火車上。
年輕猶太人問老猶太人說：「 先生，請問現在幾點了？ 」
老猶太人卻默不作聲。
「 對不起! 先生，請問現在幾點了？ 」
老猶太人還是不答
「 先生很抱歉打擾您了！但是我真的想要知道現在是幾點鐘。你為什麼不回答我呢？」
老猶太人答道：
「 孩子，下一站就是最後一站了。而我一點都不認識你這個陌生人。
如果我現在回答你，依照猶太人的傳統，我就必須邀請你到我家坐。
你長得很英俊，而我有一個很漂亮的女兒。
你們倆一定會愛上對方，然後你就會把我的女兒娶走。
你告訴我，我為什麼要一個連手錶都買不起的女婿呢？ 」
幾乎每一分鐘、每一件事，我們都依憑著過去所得的知識、經驗在作判斷。
比方，我們常聽說（或認為）：「 生意人都很狡猾 」、
「 女人都是爛駕駛」、
「 男人都很不衛生」、
「 猶太人都很吝嗇」、
「 美國人都很浪漫」 ....... 等等。
此後我們心中就會建立一套刻板的印象，
並用這個「 成見 」去解釋或評斷周遭的人事物。
一對男女若看到一個男人拿把花走在街上，
女的可能會想：「 哦 !他真體貼、好浪漫。 」
男的也許會認為，「 天啊 !我看這傢伙完了 」
有一則故事，大意是這樣的：
有一位先生初到美國不久，某個早上到公園散步，
看到一些白人坐在草坪上聊天、曬太陽，
他心想 : 「美國人生活真是悠閒，有錢又懂得享受生活。」
走了不久，又看到有幾個黑人也悠閒地坐在草坪的另一邊，
這位先生不禁想到，
「唉 !黑人失業的問題還真是嚴重，這些人大概都在領社會救濟金過生活。」
艾斯曾有這麼一段妙喻，
當你暗夜走在街上，看見某扇窗亮了一盞燈。
也許有人會說 :「這一定是母親為還沒有回家的子女在禱告」
也有人會說 :「老天，一定有人在偷情。」
哈茲立特有句話 :「 偏見是無知的孩子。 」
說得一點都不錯，
「 人」「 扁 」為偏 ，
人一旦有了偏見，
就會把「 人 」看「扁 」、看「 偏」了。
大多數的人並不了解你，
你也不完全了解這些人，
既然如此，
我們就不該輕易地去論斷他人，
當然也不必在意別人的論斷。
因為，
每個人都可能扣錯第一顆釦子 ，
不是嗎？
思想的弓拉動時間的小提琴,
葦瓦地的春天 ,
明媚了我心底的角落 .
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